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HealthIamA guy born without my left hand

Mar 27th 2017 by JustOneHand • 23 Questions • 96 Points

I'm a 14 y/o guy born with symbrachydactyly on my left, meaning I'm missing all my fingers and instead have little "nubbins" without any bone in them. I have about 7cm left of my hand from the wrist down. If you want to know how I do something just ask.

My Proof: http://imgur.com/AMbS1nO 2nd Proof: http://imgur.com/JON8d4M (Took picture with computer, it's actually my left hand)

Q:

Do you notice people's initial reactions to discovering you only have one hand? I am always uncomfortable, not for being around someone with an obvious difference, but for being obvious about my reaction of the obvious difference and making them feel uncomfortable. How do you cope when you know someone knows and is purposely trying to avoid looking?

A:

When people notice it they always pretend as if they didn't, but I always notice if people just throw a quick glare. I do get pretty uncomfortable when other's are avoiding looking at my hands, but I tend to ignore it.


Q:

Points for spelling theatre properly. I have a 3D printer and have made them before, would you like me to make you a hand?

A:

Nah, I'm fine. Getting a 3D-printed hand in probably some day, been waiting for around three weeks now


Q:

How hard is typeing with one hand?

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Tbh I'm really fast at typing, I use my little thumb (left) and index finger (right) to type


Q:

Now that I find truly interesting. How is the prosthetic worse, and why did you try it to begin with? Cosmetic reasons?

A:

Since I got it just over a month ago I've spent 14 years doing everything one-handed and therefore gotten used to doing everything with one hand. I got it mostly for balance so I won't lean to the right like I do otherwise and so I can do different types of exercises which before were impossible.


Q:

What if you someone mapped out your brain patterns and found out that your brain was set up for you to be a left-handed person, but couldn't be for obvious reasons? Wouldn't that be weird/sucky?

I'm not sure if this makes sense or, even if it does, why you would know the answer, but give it a crack.

A:

I've had doctors tell my mom that it seems I maybe should've been born left handed, but I don't know barely anything about this since I didn't ask questions, that wouldn't give me a hand anyways. But even if I were meant to be left-handed, I sure am right-handed now


Q:

Are you right handed?

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Well, some doctors told my mom that they think I should've been born left-handed, I didn't ask any questions about it since that wouldn't give me a hand, would it?

But I sure am right-handed now.


Q:

Are you sick of people asking things like "can we give ...... a hand please" or "do you need a hand?"

A:

Where I live people for the most part don't ask if someone need's a hand, but nah, can never get enough of that


Q:

What term do differently abled/physically challenged/ handicapable/ handicapped/crippled people actually prefer?

A:

Well, I mostly just say I have a handicap or a limb difference, I also say I'm differently abled


Q:

Do you exercise your left arm? How?

A:

Well, I have a myoelectric prosthesis so if I'm exercising I just use it for a grip


Q:

Do you prefer if people do or if they don't ask about what happened to your hand?

A:

Well, I rather have people just ask me about it instead of trying to hide the fact that they keep glaring at it


Q:

I apologize if this question is weird, but how would you want people to react when they see your hand? I read from your other replies that you don't want people to avoid looking at it, and I'm sure staring at it will make you feel uncomfortable, so what is the most considerate approach others should take when noticing?

A:

Well, I'd mostly prefer it if people would react just as they would if someone had two hands. But that won't happen now, will it? So I prefer it if people just ask me about it if they're curious, instead of trying to hide the fact that they're throwing glares. I constantly get kids come up to me and ask what happened to it, so I just go with the good 'ol story about shark or bears.


Q:

Do you play MMORPGs? If the answer is yes, how it is? If the answer is no, how do you spend your free hours?! :P ... Did I took the "Anything" in Ask Me Anything too far? :P

A:

I do nothing but play games on the PC, mostly MMORPGs. It's actually really easy for me


Q:

What MMORPGs do you play?

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Honestly I can't remember the names, but I switch game all the time since I very easily get tired of games


Q:

Would you consider attaching a pirate hook or something else equally as cool? If attention is going to be drawn to your hand or lack thereof you may as well have fun with it :)

A:

I actually once put fake blood all over it pretending a shark had eaten it, got some great reactions from kids. Poor kiddos


Q:

I know you're 14 now, But do you think it will be possible and safe for you to drive car ?

A:

Yup. Fully possible for people missing both arms as well


Q:

Do you actually feel handicapped or is your handicap small enough for you to perceive it as normal? Would you want some kind of robot hand if possible?

(For example i wear glasses, compared to somebody with perfect vision it's a handicap but for me it isn't noticeable at all, it actually makes me happy to know that i am uneffected by it today, but would not have been able to have a normal life 1000 years ago and it would have been way worse than only having 1,5 hands.)

A:

I don't see myself as handicapped, I just see myself as a normal kid with a different hand from the majority. And I already got a myoelectric prosthesis, but I prefer to go without it.


Q:

How much do you love my dog who was born without a right leg?

Here, here, and here.

Also is it offensive if when I meet someone born with a deformity, the first thing I do is show them my dog?

A:

Aaahh, I love him! He's adorable. And I wouldn't find it offensive, I'd probably just laugh.


Q:

I'm a bit confused here (maybe missing humour?) did you not just agree that you are biologically female a couple comments up?

A:

I'm transgenderd.

Transgender = Transitioning into the opposite sex/gender

So yes, I'm biologically a female, but I'm also a guy.


A:

Yeah


Q:

Ahh ok that makes sense now.

If you don't mind me asking; what do your parents think about you deciding this at such a young age?

You are just a bit older than my eldest daughter who I think is probably gay which I couldn't care less about, but I'm not sure I'd feel the same about her deciding she wants to be a dude at such a young age.

A:

Well, my mom is alright with it. Of course she'd prefer it if I were to just stay a girl to avoid all the harassment, bullying, etc..

But she knows that if I don't transition I would be unhappy fro the rest of my life and likely have my depression develop even more so that I would eventually take my life because of this.


Q:

Have u seeked help for this mental illness of thinking u are male?

A:

It's not a mental illness, and I don't think I am male, I AM male.


Q:

Do you ever get the urge to crawl back inside your mother to see if you can find the missing hand? :)

A:

I do, I really do. I sometimes just imagine my left hand floating around there.. ehh, that sounded disgusting nvm


Q:

Shit man, my bad.

A:

Not exactly sure it with be so comfortable using it to fist someone due to having a small thumb sticking out