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JournalistI am Susan Dominus, a staff writer at The New York Times Magazine, here to talk about my new story, "Is an Open Marriage a Happier Marriage?

May 15th 2017 by Susandominus • 25 Questions • 98 Points

Hello, Boys and Girls of Reddit!
20 years at Kaspersky Lab, and computer security still amazes me!
My business is about protecting people and organizations from cyberthreats. People often ask me “Hey Eugene, how’s business?” And I always say “Business is good, unfortunately”.
The threat landscape is evolving fast. We increasingly depend on computerized equipment and networks - which means the risks we face in cyberspace are growing as well. Plus: cybersecurity has also become a very hot political topic.
Future of cybersecurity, cyber-warfare, cyber-tactics in an increasingly politicized world, attribution, relationship between governments and cybersecurity, artificial intelligence, Russian hackers – what do you want to know?
And of course there’s our company: we’re different, and well-known, and that comes with a price. Myths start to appear, and many people don’t know what’s fact and what’s fiction. Well, I do.
The truth matters – and I’m ready to explain whatever you want to know, about cybersecurity, our company, or even myself.
You can start posting your questions right now! And from 9.00 am EST I’ll start answering them! Ask me anything! Let’s make it fun and interesting!
The answers will be all mine (although I’ve got one of our guys here with me to post the replies.)
My personal blog
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UPDATE 1:10 PM EST: Thanks for your questions folks! Especially for the tough ones. That was really interesting, but I have to go back to work now! I’ll do my best to come back later to answer questions which I couldn’t address today using my blog. Aloha!
UPDATE 2:20 PM EST OK. Answered more. Thank you all again. Have a nice day!

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Mr Bacon - Would you like to see, and/or star in a Tremors remake??


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Brings to mind the Wired article from 7/2012 - Russia’s Top Cyber Sleuth Foils US Spies, Helps Kremlin Pals - Kaspersky has 300 million customers. His geek squad uncovers US cyberweapons. And he has deep ties to the KGB’s successors in Moscow."

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I want to know if there were life things, as you put it, that the piece made you question, beyond relationships!


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we are working on that!

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Hi! As i said earlier, this article is complete and utter BS.


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Did these couples actually seem happier?

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Would you do a cooking show called Kevin Bakin'?


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Article referenced

What part(s) of the article is BS?

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So sorry I missed this! Well, one of the marriages I wrote about, as I mention elsewhere on this thread, did end in divorce. I think they actually were closer in their marriage after that year of openness, but the structure of openness was simply not sustainable for the husband, who is an introvert, and someone who really craves the safety of monogamy. But the main couple I followed absolutely ended up happier than they maybe have been since they first fell in love years ago. I don't mean that as an endorsement, overall, for openness--I just watched them, over the course of the year, really dedicate themselves to reinventing their marriage and finding new ways to focus on loving each other. They surprised each other so much over the course of the year. It's as if they went on some exotic adventure and saw themselves tested in ways they never had been--and were mutually impressed with what they observed, and had not anticipated as possible in the other.


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HMMMMMMM.....sure!

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Hi! detailed here


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Did you spend much time with the kids of the parents in these relationships? You touched on the older boy and the younger daughter of the main couple and thought their different reactions were interesting (and understandable).

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Hey, Mr. Bacon! One of my favorite films you've starred in is James Gunn's Super. Did you enjoy working on that movie?

Also, how do you feel about the Kevin Bacon jokes on American Dad?


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Do you use a user account with local admin rights on your machine?

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I did not spend enough time with those kids to have strong theories, and I did not want to write much about them, since they were not the ones happy to cooperate--their parents were. In her book, The Rules Do Not Apply, the wonderful Ari Levy writes about her discomfort with her parents' open marriage back in the eighties. I would say that her parents were not as open and transparent as many of the couples I wrote about, which may have been a huge part of it, but certainly not the only part. The research on kids in open marriages is not vast--but then again, we do know that divorce is hard on children, and many of these families were trying very hard to avoid that, I would say.


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I loved doing super! and I don't mind jokes at my expense

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No, and neither should you.


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Hi /u/janeetcetc, I am that boyfriend. The line that clearly stated I do more of the day to day childcare was a misunderstanding/ miscommunication between us and Susan. We've been trying to get a correction issued online but seems the Times can't really prioritize it at this point. Last summer I worked less because the toddler wasn't in daycare, but now the child care is equitable. I do do most of the cooking but that's just because I enjoy and am good at it. With more adults in a household you can afford to be more specific about the division of labor.

As for legal issues? I'd be naive to ignore that I'm not more legally vulnerable. I'm a renter in their house, I have no legal rights as a father, but it's a tradeoff I accept to be a part of something I believe in. And the trust and communication level this situation dictates means we've discussed all of these things. We've talked about what happens if we break up, or if circumstances dictate that I'd have to move out. Both bio parents agree her life is better with me in it, and none of us think a romantic relationship is necessary for co-parenting. There are no guarantees in life, even in marriage, even in the law, so it's a leap of faith we're all willing to make.

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What is your favorite bill Paxton memory?


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What's your first dog's name and mother's maiden name?

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Blake, thank you so much for adding this comment, I wish I'd thought to bring up the point about your equitable childcare arrangement sooner. As you point out, there's an entire fathers' rights movement built around poor enforcement of child visitation rights even for biological fathers.


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I loved that man, you could not be in a bad mood around him. so enthusiastic

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Nice try:-), and please note that phishing can be a punishable offense in the place you live in.


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Why non-monogamy rather than polygamy? Seems calculated and weighted.

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Hey Kevin. Big fan.

I just recently watched the movie Cop Car and thought you were a great in it. So much fun to watch you be the bad guy.

Any plans to play a piece of human garbage again in the near future?


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What are some of the myths about malware and cybersecurity that didn't hold water in the earlier days (say 1990-2005), but turned out to be real and threatening post that age?

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Oh, because the people I wrote about are not actually married to more than one spouse, which is what polygamy generally implies.


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love beingh the bad guy!

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Good question, was trying to recall such myths back from those days. Unrealistic myths, some ridiculous stuff never came into reality. But some bleak predictions like Internet worms, attacks on industrial systems, mobile malware, they all came true.


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You're quite adept at playing heroes and villains. Which one do you personally enjoy more? Cheers!!!

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What was your reaction to having your executive charged with treason? What is your response to this article?

http://www.cbsnews.com/news/russia-treason-fsb-spies-kaspersky-labs-us-intelligence-denies-cia-hacking/


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i like deep well rounded characters

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Unfortunately we have zero information about the case, it is classified, and the company is not involved in the investigation. I was very surprised because the arrested guy was very enthusiastic about fighting against cybercrime.


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Do you like bacon?

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Do the the new artificial intelligence based malware detection systems copy your signatures?


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hell yes!

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Hi! Not exactly but close to that


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How often do you play six degrees of yourself?

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Guess many have heard of the complexity and the difficulty of reversing Stuxnet, but I was wondering if there is a sample, or family, that had you or the team working long and hard to understand it? Or maybe just baffled or amazed by it's complexity or stupidity.

Pretty much anything that have made an impression.


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hahahaha never happens

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I personally don’t analyze the code since 2007, so I suggest my GReAT guys can give a much better answer.
One of the most idiotic things I saw was a 13-byte MS-DOS computer worm which simply copied itself on the hard drive. Once.


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Kevin, how hot was it on a set of "Wild Things" with those hotties almost naked?

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What is the process of finding a solution to a cyberthreat? Is it like coding in reverse, or more like chess, or does it depend from time to time?


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very hot. Miami in august!

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99.99%+ of the incoming malicious code is done automatically by our self-learning systems. The rest goes to the hands of our virus analysts working around the clock, mostly their job is about reverse-engineering of malicious code. Very complicated cases go to our special team of experts, and large investigations look more like collecting a very big and complicated puzzle, not chess.


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Hi Kevin Bacon, what is your advice on living a successful and happy life?

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Eugene, do you use a password manager?


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wow , stay in the day. breath!

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I do, our own one.


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What's the worst joke you've heard about your name?

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When did you wrote your last line of code? And what was it?


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lot's of sizzling stuff

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First days of January 2010, location: Patriot Hills base, Antarctica.


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Amazon Prime and "I Love Dick" in one sentence = You have my undivided attention. So what's the show about and what's your role encompass, Mr Bacon?

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What was the last big threat that really blew you away with its ingenuity?

second question, what is your interaction with law enforcement like? Do you assist governments in apprehending the virus makers?


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it's about a couple who's love life is re kindled by their lust for another man

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  1. I’d need a lot of time to answer the first one. In short I can name Carbanak, Equation and Satellite Turla as those employing the most tricky tools. Check our reports for more details.
    2-3. There are many investigations in many regions and we assist many national and international cyberpolice forces like Interpol and Europol to stop criminal schemes and arrest the attackers. Many cases.

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Second question:

How come Kaspersky don't offer a free AV like many of your competitors do?

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We already offer free solution in several regions, but later this year we’ll have some good global news. Pure free global solution (not a trial).


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Would you say you are more of a fancy bear or a cozy bear?

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I’m a Kamchatka bear-hunter.


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How do you stay current on new threats/viruses?

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My office is 5 meters away from some of my best researchers. And on my business trips I’m always in touch with our Global Research and Analysis Team (GReAT)


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Have you seen a change in business in the US in recent months? (since there has been a focus on Russia and ties to the Leadership)

Edit- grammar

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We didn’t see any real impact on our business, but all these stories, they don’t make me happy. But to some extent they give us something close to free advertising. But what makes me really feel good is how our international team, including in the U.S. is working great with all this media pressure.


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Looking back on the past 20 years, is there any aspect of Security that you feel Kaspersky has gotten into too late?

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20 years ago we were a tiny, globally invisible Moscow-based bootstrap. We simply didn’t have a lot of resources, and we knew we were losing opportunities. So first of all, we made the world’s best antivirus engine, and we licensed it to few other AV companies, because we didn’t have resources to develop a product. We had 5 engineers. We couldn’t do enterprise products, network security.
But ten years ago, based on our success, we invested in a wide range of security technologies, including our unique proprietary secure operating system.


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Does the company have any plans to move farther away from signature-based AV to the more "next gen" solutions like Cylance or SentinelOne?

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We are not relying on signature-based AV only for many-many years, check this whitepaper
About ‘next-gen’ solutions, way too often we don’t see them in regular independent tests. How do you they know they are effective, because they tell you so?


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What apps and sites are good to use to monitor/evaluate the data being grabbed by other apps and sites?

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I’m not an expert in such software, I can only say that we have a browser plugin in our consumer product that blocks tracking by websites.


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I've heard your surname pronounced as "Casper sky" and as "kas-per-skee." Which is it?

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Like “Kasper-Ski”


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There were articles on topic "Antivirus is dead". What is the future of antivirus ?

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In future we need to move from security to immunity, we need to have immune platforms and network infrastructure that would be immune to cyberattacks.


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Hello, Eugene

How is the investigation of the FAS against Microsoft proceeding? Do you plan to enter into settlement?

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It’s a long story, but it’s going on and going well. Check for details on my blog


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Eugene, what are your short term and long term goals for Kaspersky Lab?

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The short-term is to be number one company in cybersecurity. The long-term - to introduce the new immunity standards for everything digital


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Favorite malware and why? When interviewed for the Vice documentary, you commented a bit on Stuxnet, but what else has been of high interest to you.

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Ask the same question to your dentist, does he/she have a favourite cavity?


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I worked for you for a few years about a decade ago. We had a few beers together in a restaurant (Armenian IIRC) in Moscow, it was fun.

Can you say hi to Sergey Nevstruev and Vartan Minasyan for me?

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Sergey has left the company, but I will say hi to Vartan! From whom?