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OtherI had a sex change 2 weeks ago AMA

Dec 31st 2017 by AllieHugs • 21 Questions • 51 Points

Hello, my name is Anatole Konstantin. You can click here and here to read my previous AMAs about growing up under Stalin, what life was like fleeing from the Communists, and coming to America as an immigrant. After the killing of my father and my escape from the U.S.S.R. I am here to bear witness to the cruelties perpetrated in the name of the Communist ideology.

2017 marks the 100th anniversary of the Communist Revolution in Russia. My latest book, "A Brief History of Communism: The Rise and Fall of the Soviet Empire" is the story of the men who believed they knew how to create an ideal world, and in its name did not hesitate to sacrifice millions of innocent lives.

The President of Russia, Vladimir Putin, has said that the demise of the Soviet Empire in 1991 was the greatest tragedy of the twentieth century. My book aims to show that the greatest tragedy of the century was the creation of this Empire in 1917.

My grandson, Miles, is typing my replies for me.

Here is my proof.

Visit my website anatolekonstantin.com to learn more about my story and my books.

Update (4:22pm Eastern): Thank you for your insightful questions. You can read more about my time in the Soviet Union in my first book, "A Red Boyhood: Growing Up Under Stalin", and you can read about my experience as an immigrant in my second book, "Through the Eyes of an Immigrant". My latest book, "A Brief History of Communism: The Rise and Fall of the Soviet Empire", is available from Amazon. I hope to get a chance to answer more of your questions in the future.

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Do you still feel like you want to wee standing up? Are there any other auto-reflex things that you find yourself doing that have to change now?

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What was the reaction around the office once the news broke?


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How effective are the interventions, and in your opinion does the presence of cameras and being shown on TV seem to help, hinder, or have no effect on the addict's willingness to work on breaking their addiction?

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What was the status (class) of your dad before the October revolution? What were the contents of the messages he sent to people on the outside?


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I weed sitting down beforehand but I do reflexively try and tuck it down into the bowl and tuck it back when I put on underwear.

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Most of my coworkers did not even know what net neutrality was. I was trying to educate everyone but I think I only reached a few people. There's a lot of internal propaganda about the subject which is the biggest reason why I left the company. We were literally asked to hand out fliers to customer with a little statement from Verizon with a header saying "Verizon supports a free internet" written at the top. That was the last straw for me.


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80-90% of people involved in interventions go to rehab the day of, so pretty successful. It depends on how strong the family in order for the addict is to stay in treatment and stay sober after treatment.

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My father was a photographer which would be middle class. The messages he sent to his parents were about his wife and children - the usual stuff discussed between parents and children. He was never involved in politics which meant that he was not a member of the Communist Party.


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How is your vagina compared to a real vagina. Does it work the same as in touching it?

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Has that internal propaganda been anonymously misplaced somewhere on the web for us to read?


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How effective are the interventions, and in your opinion does the presence of cameras and being shown on TV seem to help, hinder, or have no effect on the addict's willingness to work on breaking their addiction?

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As a history student, I've learned that there's many different explanations to why the Soviet union eventually collapsed. Whilst they probably all contributed, which do you find was the most decisive?


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Looks wise you can't tell them apart

Touch wise I have a clitoris, g spot, and a bonus prostate g spot in the back.

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I honestly wouldn't know, but it got really bad internally. We were getting emails from the corporate office blatantly lying about Verizons stance on the subject. The attempted brainwashing was horrible.


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That's my time! Thank you all for your interest in making a difference in the epidemic that we're dealing with in this country. If you have a loved one, please reach out. There's no need to suffer any longer.

I'm really excited about this new season and hope to see you all tonight at 9pm on A&E!

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I think it was the spiritual crisis caused by discrepancy between the rosy propaganda and totalitarian reality that made the Soviet people lose faith in the system. I think there is a lesson in this for us.


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Do you think sex feels the same for you as it does got someone born female?

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So what exactly, asking fir concrete examples, has Verizon done that is contradictory to their public statement supporting a free and open internet?


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After all this time, how do ppl still fall for the ruse? Are there ppl that smell “Intervention” straight away & refuse to take part?

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Hi Anatole, thanks for taking the time to do this AMA. What would you say surprised you most about American culture when you came here, vs. what you had heard while you were in the USSR?


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I hope so, but have no way to tell

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I don't understand what you're asking.


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No, they don't because the way it’s set up. They don’t think it’s a production. It doesn’t seem like TV, they don’t connect the dots.

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The Soviet propaganda painted the United States as an almost fascist country where everyone was being exploited by the capitalists and wished they lived in a Communist country. One couldn't read Western newspapers or books and did not have any information about real life in the West. The fact that no information was available from the West did not give us an opportunity to compare the two systems. I did not believe them and, having studied in West Germany after fleeing the Soviet Union, already knew what democracy was all about.


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I've always wondered but never investigated, sex after transitioning is still pleasurable?

Wishing you the best with your new body and with your life in general!

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Of course, i will clarify. Your claim is that you quit because you were asked to hand out flyers implying thay Verizon supported an open internet. My question, is this, what actions has Verizon taken as a company that are contradictory to the message they are promoting. Are they throttling connection speeds for certain websites, forcing tiered service onto customers, blocking wesbites, etc.

Right now, youre argument is based solely upon your feelings, and not based on factual evidence. You feel they are promoting false information, without providing supporting data. Basically, im saying you quit your only job to virtue signal for meaningleas online points.


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In my limited experience, addiction counselors/workers tend to be addicts themselves. Is it possible to be as effective without that personal experience and intimate knowledge? e.g. Could a 22 year old with no drug or alcohol experience be at all effective?

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How prevalent was petty theft in day to day life growing up within the Soviet Union. Not necessarily stealing from each other, but trying to steal from the regime? Did people often steal from each other, or was there more of a group mentality, of we're all in this together? Was there an element of needing to steal to survive, or live in otherwise unbearable conditions? Any information or perspectives you could give on the world of petty crimes would be interesting to me.


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Yes, we have orgasms that are way more intense than pre transition, and some of us can do it multiple times in a session.

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Verizon has been "testing" throttling for a few years now. About a year ago Verizon started throttling the Netflix app in certain markets. While I can't provide studies or data proof, most of my decision is based in my understanding that Verizon is trying to mask their stance against net neutrality with that statement. Verizon has been flirting with heavy throttling ever since the came out with their newer unlimited plan and I have zero doubts that we will see some sort of plan in the near future with fast lane access to certain websites.


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With proper training, absolutely. If someone wants to go to school and learn about the process they could be just as effective at helping people.

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It depends on how you define "petty crimes". During the collectivization of farmers, theft from the collective farm of a handful of grain stalks needed for survival was considered a crime punishable by years of imprisonment. People stole because there were shortages of everything and among the population, stealing from the government was not viewed as a real crime. In general, petty crime was common.

Edit: People had to remove windshield wipers when they parked their cars for fear of them being stolen.


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Why?

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Verizon has been "testing" throttling for a few years now. About a year ago Verizon started throttling the Netflix app in certain markets.

So if verizon was throttling websites while NN laws were active, why do we need said laws? Its clear that either the laws were inept or didnt do what yourself, and many other uninformed individuals, claimed.

Verizon has been flirting with heavy throttling ever since the came out with their newer unlimited plan and I have zero doubts that we will see some sort of plan in the near future with fast lane access to certain websites.

Again, this is an argument made based upon feelings, not data or evidence. Its more virtue signaling.

Im getting the sense that you have no idea what the "Net Neutrality" laws did in practice and were brainwashed by reddits pro-NN bullshit.


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Is “sober January” where people who don’t necessarily have alcohol issues take off drinking for one month, a good idea?

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What is your favorite book from that giant shelf behind you in that picture?


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I always wanted a vagina and my penis caused me a lot of mental and emotional discomfort. Showers were dreadful and sex was awkward and emotionaly uncomfortable.

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Regardless, my opinion was that Verizon was being misleading. I respect your desire for factually data but I simply don't have the means to provide it. I'd like to believe I'm well informed on the subject but if you say I'm wrong I'll have to do more research. Most of my decision was based on what I perceived to be happening and If I'm wrong and I quit for the wrong reason then I'll face the coming consequences. That being said the fliers were not the only reason I left the company.


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I think if there’s a question that you need to take off a month, there may be an issue with alcoholism. Most normies don’t take a month off from drinking, or even come into their awareness to take off a month of drinking.

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"The Black Book of Communism", Harvard University Press, 1999


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Do you have any regrets? Is there anything you would have done differently in regards to the transition?

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Did you have another job lined up, or are you just completely lacking impulse control?


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Yep, this is my take.

If not drinking for a full month is something you would consider an achievement, then you might have a problem.

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How do you think things would have turned out if Trotsky had been able to succeed Lennin instead if Stalin rising to power?


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I wish I could have started sooner. Puberty implements many irreversible changes that cause us dysphoria, if I knew I was trans at 12 or 13 I could have started puberty blockers and avoided male puberty all together.

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I have an interview coming up but nothing solid. I have a big chunk of savings lined up though so I can get by for a month or two.


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and some of the difficult ones stick with me, like when family members lose loved ones.


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If you can't be trusted to vote till 18 then how can a child at that age be trusted with a permanent decision like that?

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So, you decided to quit a job with no other offers and can get by for "a month or two". Do you not see how idiotic this is?


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I have heard that opioid addiction is very hard to break, and that full recovery rates are low, is that true?

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What would be your ideal method of governance?


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By taking them to a professional to get a diagnosis from them. And puberty blockers are reversable.

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I appreciate the concern, but I am confident everything will turn out alright. My partner is still pulling in an income and I have a good support network in my family.


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Yes, unfortunately. But if you do an intervention, and get the family on the same page, the success rate jumps 50% according to recent studies. That’s our job as interventionists is to help the family learn to move forward appropriately.

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A civilized democracy.


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How would you compare masturbation to fingering yourself?

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Hello friend! I was a Retail Sales Consultant for AT&T for 3 years! A recruiter from Verizon contacted me on LinkedIn recently about a solutions specialist job. I left AT&T because of Wells Fargo type management and pressure to make unethical sales. I hear Verizon is similar so i turned it down. What was your experience like with Verizon?

I know this wasn’t what your AMA is about but I would like to know lol.


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I have heard that opioid addiction is very hard to break, and that full recovery rates are low, is that true?

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Anatole, what do you see is the most ideal and fair system of government, and which countries have implemented that system of government the most faithfully?


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Still way too early to do any sort of fun stuff, have to wait till 3 months post op.

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The pressure is definitely there, I was with Verizon for quite some time and while the pay and benefits are fantastic but the emotional toll was heavy. Did the 80 year old lady really need a $700 phone and a Bluetooth speaker? Probably not, but your leadership team will always tell you that it's their money not yours but that excuse just didn't fly with me. I'm not going to miss the days of going home feeling guilty. That being said I don't want it to sound too dramatic or anything. Most days I would be genuinely helping people with issues and the like. It was the sales aspect I hated but it is to be expected in any commission based retail job.


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The advice I would give them is to do an intervention, because there's always a reason we can find to get them help.

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I think it is democracy in which the opponents are not considered to be enemies, as we had it in the second half of the 20th century.


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Yes, we have orgasms that are way more intense than pre transition, and some of us can do it multiple times in a session.

you wrote this reply to someone above, what am i missing here

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Do Verizon employees have to drink the anti-net neutrality Cool-Aid for the sake of their jobs?

Have you spoken to a labor lawyer?

Edit: It's clear from the downvotes of legitimate questions that anti-NN is well organized and still remains a presence on reddit: Why would any real people want to give away more personal data and be forced to let their ISP dictate content. If America cant agree on this simple issue: companies profit above people...we are doomed as a nation.


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Do you think the United States can overcome this opioid crisis?

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Why wasn't Stalin assassinated?

What do you think of the Russian War effort in WW2

What do you think of Putin and his role in Syria?

What is a good book that provided a fair analysis of Communist Russia


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That comes from hormone therapy, not srs.

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I left on my own accord so I don't feel like that entitles me to anything. Employees had to either keep their opinions to themselves when asked on the subject by customers or hand out Verizon official statement which was propaganda aimed at misleading people. Part of why I quit, I refused to help Verizon trick people into thinking it supported net neutrality.


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Yes, I think if we follow the doctor diversion programs that have an 85% success rate, with aftercare, we could make a huge change.

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According to rumors, Stalin was assassinated by Lavrenty Beria who arranged for a larger than normal dose of blood thinning medication be given to him. Beria felt his life was threatened when Stalin was preparing another purge of the leadership.

I am not an expert in matters of the war.

As for the book question, my new book "A Brief History of Communism" analyzes life in Communist Russia.


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Asking the real questions here.

!RemindMe 90 days

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So was that truly a wise decision? Like, did you have a backup job ready?


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Do you think that public image of alcohol should change, the same way it changed for cigarettes over the years?

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What if any parallels do you see in Putin's increasingly autocratic government and the Soviet government?


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!RemindMe 90 days

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It may not have been a "wise" decision. But I stand by my choice. I have a few backup plans so I'm confident I will be okay.


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Yes, especially since so many people die from alcoholism every year. It needs to have that same type of awareness.

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The fact that he is approved by 80% of the Russian population shows that because Russia never had a real democracy, an autocratic government is acceptable to a majority there and so is Putin's objective of restoring military power and influence in the world.


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"Well babe, we gotta have sex, doctors orders"

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how many people quit with you? Do you think your quitting made a difference or was it just to show that you are pissed.


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Love the show and the amazing results it seems to produce! Are you close with the other interventionists? Any memorable experiences with Jeff/Candy/etc? Thanks!

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Russia has never survived under a “democracy.” Without an authoritarian leader like Vladimir Putin, Russia would cease to exist and would split into several impoverished republics. It’s a nation that needs strong federal unified rule.

I’ve studied this subject for several years and I’ve written multiple papers about it. It’s evident in Russia’s history. The stark demographic and cultural differences that exist among her people makes the principle of “democracy” nearly impossible to implement and sustain.


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"Time for my sex break boss, boyfriend is waiting in the car."

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I was the only one in my whole district that quit to my knowledge. In the grand scheme of things it probably won't make a difference but I have to stand up to my beliefs.


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Yes! I love seeing them and Donna as well. As you can see we run into each other at different events. Candi and I just did a video together that we posted on the Intervention Facebook page.

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This is an accurate representation of the state of Russia.


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Curious, is your boss obligated to accommodate three 50 minute breaks since this is a medical procedure?

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What were your thoughts when you learned Trump’s staff selection included a Verizon Lawyer?


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Love the show!! So many people are struggling with addiction you help so many. What made you want to be an interventionist?

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What party/ideology do you identify with in the US? What do you think about Bernie Sanders being painted as a communist for wanting to incorporate socialistic programs into our capitalist society?


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Not really sure, guess it would depend on the company

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We actually all got an email congratulating him on his appointment and also when he stepped down from his position. It was concerning to me when it first happened for obvious reasons. I still think he's being coached by Verizon employees. The way he's been acting trying to be "hip" is very similar to how the head of employee relations acts on internal videos distributed internally.


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I think, after watching families suffer and be in so much pain after someone dies, it really motivated me to help because the addict is high and doesn’t realize the pain their causing.

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I am in the middle of the road between the republicans and democrats.

We should differentiate between Communism and Socialism. Bernie Sanders is not a Communist. I think he would like to see a system more like what they have in Sweden, which is a monolithic society and would not work here.


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dialate?

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For those wondering, this is a low level position. Typically making ~$14/hr per google search, which is probably generous.


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As a survivor of Stalin's regime, what would you say to demonstrate how bad it really was to someone who's romanticizing the communist ideology?

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Put a big plastic cylander inside me to stretch out the tissue.


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I made significantly more than that. Most people will build a career with that job. Hourly was alright but we also made commission.

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Stalin's regime caused the death of over 24,000,000 of his citizens. They killed my father and many others just for writing a letter to their family abroad. They starved millions of people during artificially created famines in order to force farmers into collective farms.

I would recommend reading "Gulag: A History" by Anne Applebaum.


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Put a big plastic cylander inside me

Like a tampon?

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What would you say is some of the worst parts of working within a position where you have to deal with people's issues regarding products, plans, etc?


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Do you think that the hardships you endured are related to an inherent evil in Communism? Or is it that the people in power were corrupt?

What I mean is, do you think in a perfect world Communism would work and the problem is we are imperfect creatures, or is Communism evil even if it is implemented perfectly?

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Essentially, but you have to actively hold it in there for an hour at a time and its pretty uncomfortable.


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The sheer unwillingness most people have to solve their own problems. Most phones issues can be solved by turning off all apps in the background and doing a soft reset on the device. About 3/4 of the customers coming into a Verizon store can save themselves a drive and the hassle of having a sales rep try and sell them something if they just spent at least a fraction of their time and energy into learning how to do minor troubleshooting on the device the carry with them 24/7. I understand not being able to figure out plans and service issues but people with actual service issues made up a fraction of the customer base coming in to the store everyday.

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Considering that the same system in other countries like China, Cuba, and Cambodia led to the same results, it shows that it was the system that is incompatible with human nature. It couldn't be implemented in any other way. Powerful people in other ideologies are also corrupt and yet they did not murder millions of their own citizens.


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That's three times a week?

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Nah that’s something they would like you to believe. The reality is that NN has been a fundamental part of ISP-related government policy since ISPs were a thing, but some ISPs were beginning to ignore that and use loopholes to throttle connections and be dickheads anyway. The 2015 policies only served to reinforce the laws and make the ISPs stop what they were doing, not introduce NN altogether


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What is your opinion on educated people in America who openly support communism, as well as dictators and their dictatorship?

As the son of a Cuban whose family was prosecuted and killed in Cuba, it infuriates me to hear people who praise those like Castro. So many people see only what they want to see.

Edit: after some responses and questions I went to talk to my father about the family history. Turns out my direct family (grandfather, pregnant grandmother) left Cuba because my grandfather, a doctor, helped both Batista's men and the men they were fighting during a shootout. Batista put 500,000$ on my grandfather's head for aiding the others. They also disagreed with Batista and later Castro, who ran the rest of my family out of Cuba.

My father said to relay a few things, first that Batista was bad, no denying that, but Castro was worse in his opinion. Batista was a murderer, but he mostly just messed with the political class and left the rest alone if they didn't interfere with the money. Castro messed with everyone, and ran the country into the ground.

My grandfather, Maximo/Luly Viera, was smuggled out, while his cousin Mingolo was not. Mingolo was on Batista's bad side, so he was caught, shot 150 times, and thrown on his mother's front porch.

Edit 2: My father said to post, if communism was so good they wouldn't need fences and walls and machine guns to keep people in.

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A day


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Ha ha, about a week and a half prior to me leaving we had a meeting where they showed us a video arguing just that.

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I think these people are not sufficiently educated because schools are not doing a good job teaching history. I wish history teachers themselves knew more about what went on. Those who don't know the past are liable to repeat it.


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Not really sure how to phrase this, but during your transition did your strength level change?

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Hi Mr. Konstantin,

Thank you for making yourself available for an AMA. I stumbled late onto your AMA last year and commented on how influential your book was to me while I was in high school. Your grandson Miles came across my message on that thread and reached out to me last week that you'll be doing an AMA and again reached out earlier today to let me know it was up - thank you, Miles! This actually reminded me the book would be a great gift for my sister who is interested in studying 20th century history - I found the last hardcopy on amazon at the moment :D

I have a few questions if you are able to answer:

  • Are you still speaking at local schools on life in the USSR? Do you have comments from speaking with students/teachers on your life? You comment on how education does not sufficiently emphasize lessons from history, and I think hearing and seeing someone speak, or writing personal accounts, will likely always be a lesson that finds more connection than watching an aged documentary or reading from a dry school textbook.

  • Apart from writing, do you have other hobbies?

  • Do you think communist or other harsh political ideologies would be harder or easier to find root today compared to the early 20th century?

Thank you - best of luck to you and your family in your business and personal endeavors!


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Yes, I lost quite a bit of muscle mass from hormone treatments

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Thank you for your message.

I am no longer speaking in schools, but I am still being interviewed occasionally in local libraries. I found that most history teachers I met are not knowledgable about Communism and therefore their students are not familiar with it.

As for hobbies, I try to follow scientific developments in all areas.

I think that with jobs being lost to automation and artificial intelligence it may become easier in the future for these ideologies to take root.


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Hi, how are you? Just stumbled across your post and I wanted to say I hope you are feeling well and are healing up well.

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Is it communism or dictatorship and lack of free speech that made life under Stalin so bad? Can you have a democratic communist country with free speech?


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I'm doing really great, thanks! Everything is healing nicely, not much pain at all and I've actually been off the painkillers for a week now. I'm able to walk down to the street to the shops, just no heavy lifting and no stairs.

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A Communist system cannot tolerate another political party or ideology. Therefore, perhaps only after they exterminate all of their opponents, they would accept "free speech" from their supporters.


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most neo vaginas are cis identical

I wish you all the best, but this is simply not true. They are most definitely different. Anatomically speaking, male genatalia cannot be made “identical” to female genatalia through surgery. There are different glands, the tissue is different, ect...

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Do you think Troksky would have been able to bring about a more wholesome, successful, and supportive form of socialism than Lenin did?


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My surgeon has been known to fool gynecologists with his results :)

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Since Trotsky wrote, "The Red Terror is a weapon used against a class that, despite being doomed to destruction, does not wish to perish," I do not think that his rule would be any more benevolent than Lenin's.


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which treatments that you've undergone or researched do you think would be advantageous even outside of the context of a sex change?

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What do you feel about the current state of the American hard left? And the polarization of the political landscape in general?


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Our hormone treatment drugs are used to treat PCOS and post menopausal women. Spironolactone, our testosterone blocker, is used to fight prostate cancer and high blood pressure.

Surgery wise, orchiectomies are used in late stage testicular cancer but not much else can be applied to non trans people.

MtF voice training can be a fun way to mess with people in online voice chats

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I think that the hard left is balanced by the hard right and neither are compatible with democracy as we know it. This is the most polarized time in our history and I think this too shall pass.


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I have always been curious about how the reconstruction is completed. Assuming the technique used is pretty universal, which parts are used to make the clitoris, labia, vaginal wall, etc?

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Thank you so much for taking the time to do this! Your insights are fascinating and I'm definitely hoping to pick up your book soon!

Do you think there are any artistic/fictional representations of life under Stalin's regime that have a particular resonance with your experiences?


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There are actually 2 different techniques, Inversion and non inversion. Inversion is by far the most common; they use the penile skin for the vaginal shaft (inverting it) and the scrotum for the outside bits.

Non inversion is only preformed by a few surgeons in Thailand and they use the less sensitive scrotum to make the canal and the more sensitive penile skin to make the outside bits. Sensation, depth, self-lubrication and aesthetics are usually better with this method but has a much longer operating time and recovery period.

Both methods use the top of the penis head to form the clitoris

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Yes, there is a Russian movie with english subtitles that is called "Burnt by the Sun" which is available on Amazon.


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jesus, and I squirmed when I had a vasectomy. Is there any lingering nerve damage? Is the prostate removed? Because my testicles are intact sperm causes problems around my prostate.

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How do you feel about all the memes and jokes about Stalin, Hitler, and communism in general? Are they offensive?


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There is always a chance for nerve damage but I'm hoping I avoided it, it's pretty rare.

Still have my prostate but it has shrunken down considerably with hormone treatment, now it's a 2nd g spot at the back of my vagina.

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I am not familiar with memes, but I do not find these sorts of jokes offensive.


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If I can ask, approximately how much did the operation cost and were there anything done to reduce the cost?

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The surgery itself was 10k usd and I opted for a treachia shave which was an additional 1.8k. The flight and hotel were both about 2.5k. No way to reduce the cost, insurance doesn't cover for out of country.


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Why is this so heavily downvoted? Good on you OP!

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Haters gunna hate


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Please pardon my bluntness. A few facts I want to state for clarification first. We have new research which increasingly supports the conclusion that biological male and female brains have structural differences. Sexual dysphoria is where the brain of a person has certain characteristics more closely resembling the other biological sex than what would be typical of another person of that sex. So it can be very apparent for trans people that they have sexual dysphoria at a young age. So sexual dysphoria can be said to be a case where the body and brain structures of a person do not match as intended. You made a change to alter your body structure to match your brain structure.

If there was a method to alter your (female) brain structure to match your (male) body structure (create a male brain structure) would you have done it, would you have welcomed that option or would you reject it? Even if you would not personally make this choice, would those with gender dysphoria benefit from such an option in treatment? Should we devote research to this end?

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It would depend on the process and risks involved, I would do it if it was safe and with a very experienced surgeon in this particular operation. For that to happen would require major brain surgery that would change your very consciousness. Its definitely worth researching but that same tech can be used to surgically alter someone's thoughts and personality so research will be highly classified most likely.


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Reading that certificate made me slightly emotional.

What was it like to see those words written and official?

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I cried many happy tears that night :,)


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If you did not have a s/o and approached a male for coitus, with the male being made aware that you are trans, but not knowing to what extent physically, would you be offended if he asked whether you were pre or post op?

I only ask because this situation happened to me a few years back. This individual was a very convincing female, whom approached me with sexual intentions and made it clear that they were transgender. While I am open to the idea of having intercourse with an individual who has female genitalia I am not interested when they clearly still have a penis. After some small talk which went pretty well I asked if she was pre-op or post-op, and this persons response was to go ape shit and belittle me.

Was this question out of line? Was I in the wrong? Is it offensive?

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I wouldn't be offended at all, but then again I would make it clear from the get go. Seems like a reasonable thing to ask but everyone is different and interprets things differently.


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Congratulations! You mentioned that this is something you've wanted to do since a young age so I'm guessing that this is a pretty big thing for you.

First off, how do you feel about the whole thing post-op? Mainly psychologically, has it made you feel better or more comfortable as expected?

Any male effects/symptoms you still exhibit? And did you opt for breast implants as well (if not, future plans to?)

A:

I'm still riding the high of it. Its like Christmas morning for a kid but x100. Its hard to resist the urge to dm everyone I know with "I have a vagina now! Ahhh!"

I still have some male characteristics that I would like to change (shoulders, height, foot size, hips, brow bone, etc) but are either not possible with modern medical tech or too expensive.

I got lucky with hormone treatments and ended up a 34c, and with a push up bra looks nice on my frame. I did go for the trachea shave though, which was an easy add on since I was under general anaesthesia anyway.


Q:

Excuse my ignorance. And i'm afraid to google,(i'm assuming it's surgery and i get queasy at surgery photos). What is a trachea shave? Is that the adams apple or?

A:

Adams apple, yes


Q:

How does one sign up to be a dilator?

A:

Its not as fun as it sounds, trust me.


Q:

How close is your new vagina to what a female born female has? Does it look the same? Do you have the same feelings in it? Can it do the same stuff? Will a person who has been with say a hundred women previously but is not a professional on vaginas be able to tell the difference?

A:

It does look the same but doesn't get as wet so some lube is needed for sex. It should feel the same too, lots of nerve transplants were done. No one should be able to tell.


Q:

How did the leading medical professionals diagnose you?

A:

I had to get 2 letters of recommendation from psychologists where they interviewed me about my experiences with dysphoria.


Q:

I'm late and hopefully you're still answering. It looks like you had the surgery in Thailand, but your twitter account says you're from the US. Was that for cost reasons, quality of service, or both?

I just did a little Google search and found this. I had no idea. The only person I know who had reassignment surgery did it in the US, and the cost did a lot of damage to her finances.

A:

Cost wasn't a factor for me, though it was much cheaper at only 10k usd. There is a special method done here only done by a hand full of surgeons from Thailand. It has better quality but much more involved operation.


Q:

First of all; Congrats on the op! Hope you heal well, are happy and more comfortable in your body.

Questions: If the scrotum is used as the vaginal canal, is there laser hair removal preformed beforehand?

Also; How you are able to have a g spot in the 'standard' place in your vagina? What is done to achieve this?

A:

Thanks!

No laser needed, all hair is removed surgically during the op.

They move a certain set of glands to just inside the opening.


Q:

How long did it take to heal before you can have some action ?

A:

3 months


Q:

How long have you known you were transgender?

A:

I first knew I wanted to be a girl at around 4-5 years old but didn't know that transition was a possibility until I was 19


Q:

If this isn’t too intrusive, what sexuality do you identify with?

A:

I was only into girls before I started hormone treatments, after that I was bi for about a year and a half slowly leaning more towards liking guys. Now Im only into guys.


Q:

That is so interesting. Do you feel like hormones have a lot to do with sexual orientation, then?

A:

My endocrinologist said it was pretty rare to have it switch like that. Most end up some sort of bi/pan but some don't change at all.


Q:

This is more of a general question: Sometimes I do not know what pronoun, if any, to use for someone. Is it best to just ask? I do not want to offend someone by asking them, but I also don't want to offend someone by awkwardly not using pronouns or using the wrong one. What do you personally prefer, or what did you prefer pre-operation?

A:

If they are obviously trying to present as a certain gender then I would call them by that genders pronouns. If you are unsure just use they/them. Asking lets them know that you can tell they're trans which might upset them but is best if you're going to see them frequently (coworker, family) but do it in private.

I started going by she/her once I started dressing as a female in public.


Q:

Thanks so much for doing an AMA so soon after major surgery! I think a lot of the stigmatism for trans individuals comes from lack of information.

That being said, I'm wondering if you can weigh in on an interaction I had years ago that I still think about. Back when I was 20 and waitressing at a middle luxury restaurant, I had a table come in with an older women, an (approximately) 10 year old boy, and another person who I believe was a MtF individual who was wearing a skirt, had on a wig and painted nails with long necklaces, but also had many unavoidable markers of a man (shadow of a beard, adams apple, etc). I chose to address her as a she in conversation since I figure if they are choosing to present as female I should respect it. Once I said "she" though, the young boy interrupted and said, "hey, that's not a lady!" quite loudly and started laughing. I apologized and hurried to the kitchen.

I was really mortified because maybe I was mistaken and had misidentified, and the table never said anything else to me. The rest of their experience was just me being very upbeat. I frequently wonder how I could better have handled that encounter, and worry that I negatively impacted that persons self-esteem.

With your experience, what is the best way to handle these subsequent interactions for people who look like they are transitioning? It is not always acceptable to avoid gendered pronouns in all interactions, especially in higher scale arenas.

A:

You made the right call there, but no one can be right 100% of the time. They might have been a crossdresser or lost a bet of something. I call people by the pronouns of the gender they present as unless/until they say otherwise.


Q:

Pineapple on Pizza. Yay or Nay?

A:

Nay. They are good on their own but dont belong togeather.


Q:

If you swaped genders and want to be with a man does that mean you are gay or not?

A:

Nope, sexual orientation goes by secondary sex characteristics not primary.


Q:

Congrats! I hope you heal quickly and enjoy your corrected body.

How do you feel? Physically? also emotionally?

A:

Physically a bit of discomfort but its bearable, about the level of a bad rash. Emotionally I'm over the moon, ive wanted this since I was a child and now I finally feel complete. I feel like a normal person now :)


Q:

First of all, congrats! I am sorry you have to read through asshole comments in the thread, tho.

Apart from the dilators, how do you take care of your new bits? In particular, do you need to use any kind of lube-like substance to keep it moisturized or it isn't needed?

A:

Nope, I do have to wipe to pee now but other than that just wash it in the shower and you're good.


Q:

Before you've done this, what were the medical risks explained to you? Also why did gender matter to you that much for you to go through with it despite those risks? I mean no disrespect.

A:

For risks, if there was scar tissue found on my colon they wouldn't be able to go past it and they would stop the depth there. Due to the epidural block in my spine, I could devolope blood clots in my legs so I had to rotate my feet in bed to keep blood flowing. There are always the general surgery risks too; being allergic to something, they make a mistake, etc. As long as you follow the nurses instructions you will be fine.

Genital dysphoria made having any intimate relations very difficult which would put a strain on relationships and made showers and going to the bathroom dreadful. Clothed were also hard to wear. I would have to constantly go retuck when wearing leggings or anything tight and swimsuits were out of the question.


Q:

How did you tuck with an erect ion ? Would you just throw some cold water on it and wait it off ?

A:

Hormone therapy will make erections almost entirely stop.


Q:

Have you been intimate with anyone since the op?

A:

Nope, No fun times until 3 months post op. Gotta miss out on valentines day fun :(


Q:

So do you know if it might be possible to achieve orgasm?

A:

It should be, most people can but we have to re-learn how with the new bits.


Q:

How does it feel to have to push a stick through your open wound for up to 5 times a day, every day, so your body can't heal it shut? Was it what you expected?

A:

Its not an open wound, its a tube of skin made from the scrotum. The dilation is to help keep it elastic for sex, the stitches have mostly completely healed by now.


Q:

how do you react to people who don't understand or laugh?

A:

Ive never had it happen thankfully, I pass pretty well in public.