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RequestRequest- a former FBI agent, especially someone who worked with serial killers

Feb 24th 2018 by mjkevin247 • 8 Questions • 38 Points

My short bio: Had cancer as a baby and now cant walk, been through a lot in hospital and now want questions!

My Proof: https://imgur.com/a/cxbQd

Q:

What type of cancer?

A:

I had a neuroblastoma on my spine, essentially the tumor crushed my spinal cord meaning nerve signals cant be sent beyond a certain point.


Q:

Are you in high school or university? If so, what major? If not, what do you plan to do?

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I live in Ireland so I'm in the equivalent of the last year of high school. I have had a lot of medical complications over the last 2 years resulting in me missing a lot of school so I'm not going to do well in my end of year tests (which are very important for getting into college here.) I'm still not sure exactly sure what my plan would be for the next few years but ideally it would be get better health wise, then do a portfolio course or fetac course (alternative ways of getting into university but they take an extra year) and then study graphic design and go on from there!!


Q:

Im in university rn so all the high school stuff is relatively fresh in my mind. If you need any help with your subjects at all, feel free to message me and maybe i can tutor you :)

A:

Thank you I appreciate it! I'll keep it in mind and dm you if I want to take you up on that offer :)


Q:

What would be the best way to ask you out? It came into my mind when I saw a very charismatic girl with a big smile on her face in a wheelchair and I thought of just asking her if she wanted to grab a beer with me someday but:

  • didn't want to let her feel I would do that out of pity.. I don't know her and the only thing I know from her (apart from her looks) is that she is disabled

  • normally I don't approach completely strangers because that's kind of creepy. But I know I wouldn`t meet her anywhere else because I don't see wheelchairers in the places I go to often (like the bars I go to)

A:

The best advice I can give you is go up and talk to her like you would anyone else! We're really not that different underneath it all! Be considerate of where you invite her like if there are steps in the building, a table that she would have easy access to or cobbles on the route there (cobbles and wheelchairs don't go well together) Hope this was helpful and it goes well for you!


Q:

Yes, but that's the thing: you are not different at all. But if I approach some average girl at the central station and ask her out she would moooost proably be uncomfortable (and that is understandable). I doubt I will see her again but if I will, I'll just talk to her. I doubt she will be mad, just don't want her to be uncomfortable, that's all. For the rest: yeah, that`s right, would definetly check the location first.

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Being realistic we are a little bit- but yes your point still stands... I guess all you can do is try to keep her at ease sure the first 5 mimutes of conversation might be awkward but if you get talking you never know :) if you see her again and need an ice breaker simply ask if she needs a hand with anything (getting on the train/bus depending on the station or carrying anything if she's got her hands full) other than that the only advice I'd offer is if you do get a date with her and she looks tired don't start pushing her without asking... imagine someone you just met deciding what direction you're going.... not a nice feeling! Best of luck with it! :)


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I have often wondered are there things that are put in place to assist you like ramps, lower counters, tables with open spots that your find less functional or counter intuitive? My second question, is there something small that we can do everyday that would help you?

Thanks for doing this, best of luck on your journey and make the best of it, also welcome to reddit.

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There is only really one instance that comes to mind about counter intuitive assistance because at least where I'm from (Ireland) things are generally well thought out before anything gets done, and it would have to be ramps that are but in place but are far too steep to use easily. Now if I'm with friends it wouldn't be a problem but if I am out by myself it can be a challenge. As for something small you guys can do yes there is! If you see someone who might be struggling with something ask if you can help! Be it a heavy door, trying to carry things or trying to climb up one of those steep ramps help is always appreciated! However please don't be one of those people that help without even asking... I've had a few occasions of people starting to push me/ take things off me/ try to help me with situations that I didn't need and it just makes an uncomfortable situation for everyone involved.. Hope this was a satisfactory answer and thank you :)


Q:

What are your long-term goals in life?

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The same as everyone else for the most part, live a happy healthy long life, get a job in something I enjoy doing, have a good job in a sector I like to work in. I used to play wheelchair basketball and was asked to train with the Ireland team but had to say no (medical reasons) but wouldn't mind seeing where that takes me.


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Bot removed my comment because it wasn't a question. So Ill ask a question and make my comment.

How do you feel in reference to other young people your age that are out driving, getting their licenses etc?

Also, how do you stay motivated?

Stay strong!!

A:

Don't worry about it :) Funnily enough I'm in the process of getting my licence at the moment! I've done all my lessons and have my test booked in March! I'm not entirely sure what you mean for the stay motivated part as that is incredibly broad... if you mean to do everyday things, I make a lot of jokes at my own expense about my disability because its one of those situations where if you don't laugh you'll cry! Thank you for the encouragement though!